BEING FEMININE

Since the day Navratri has begun, there are sparkles and colours all around that would  fascinate and en­chant any man you meet. From casual to traditional, the entire attractiveness-quotient has changed. 

Interestingly every girl or woman would look something above-the-top and feel the same. Is it because of haute couture lehenga-choli with deep cut patterns, the dance, the whole mood of just FEELING feminine no matter how.

So what is femininity exactly? 

To quote Sue Patton Thoele, the Divine Feminine is inclusive, honouring of process, empowered, intuitive, compassionate, complementary, connective, cooperative, diffuse, relational, gentle, receptive, empowering, forgiving, introspective and healing. This list is not exhaustive but it’s certainly a start.

Do you have to listen Rihanna, watch Angelina Jolie or imitate Cameron Diaz to match your idea of femininity? Do you doubt your femininity? Do you have to wait for an occasion to feel it or some guy to help you realise?  Does 0.7 waist–hip ratio Or an hour-glass shape makes one feminine?

Its hard to even know what’s the idea of femininity in these times, so pointless relying on some fictitious idea which hardly matches yours. Is it really right to compartmentalize the idea of femininity according to sociology, psychology and biologically. Is it something prevalent in both the sexes?

I have met many women who tell me they are bad at being “feminine”. Now this makes the idea messy. Feminine is defined as something associated with women. So you have it lady! 

Why to keep on searching it outside and be doubtful.  Its is something inside your mind, which makes you feminine. Your confidence, your stand on what you are, care, compassion and love for those around you makes you feminine. Not that men doesn’t have care and compassion, but their way of expression differs.   

 They say, The Birth of Venus (Botticelli) is a classic representation of femininity. Venus was a Roman goddess principally associated with love, beauty and fertility.

So the question arises again. Is femininity being loving, fertile, beautiful ?
Is femininity being “fairer-sex”?
Or is it simply enjoying your existence as a woman?
You have been gifted with that body,
 that soul,
 that compassion, that ability to love by birth.

Femininity is that natural-grace regardless of what you wear, you look like, of how you walk or talk. 

Femininity is that unique way you live for yourself, that flow of your life, holding up yourself and others around you in every trouble.

Being feminine is taking pride in what you are, how you look. There’s nothing shallow in dressing up like a Barbie and putting on a makeup! Also nothing so awesome than going out just out-of-a-bed look!

Being feminine not always defines elegance and grace, but also laughing on yourself when fallen in front of others.

Feminine not always is to be delicate, tender, and fragile; it is also most importantly to feel strong. Its not always necessary to be strong, to feel strong!

Remember the time when you felt feminine. What you were doing, how you looked, how you sounded; see yourself as someone else.

        


Why not just enjoy every bit of love, 
care, 
compassion,
 strength, 
sacrifice, 
enjoy the warrior-inside,
 enjoy the vulnerable-soul inside and name it YOUR femininity!